Learning techniques to improve your marriage may the only way to successfully get it back on the right track. You have to do the work and take responsibility for saving your marriage. Your efforts will determine whether your it survives or if you end up in divorce court. Without your efforts - your marriage will fail. Without a doubt.
There are a lot of great books out there on marriage and other topics but I don't believe anyone ever accomplished anything great just be reading a book. All victories are the result of hard work. Your hard work! A personal investment and dedication are necessary elements for achieving success. Those with the most to gain often work the hardest.
If you're determined to succeed in your marriage, willing to do the hard work, contribute to open and honest discussions, you will be successful.
Exploring new ways to learn about your spouse is a wonderful start. This is not a one time project! You must continue to learn throughout the entire life of your marriage. The work must continue.
Finding new ways to love your spouse will open so many wonderful doors for the both of you! Agreeing to continue growing is essential. Over time these behaviors can become habits but should never stop. If you feel that you're at a point in your marriage in which you can't learn anything new about your spouse, you're wrong. There is much more to learn and so many ways to grow together. Learning a few simple tools can help you in this process.
In my personal experience, it seemed easier to just stop trying rather than working at the relationship. As time went on and we drifted farther apart, it just didn't feel that it was worth it to "do the hard work".
There are "marriage secrets" that we can use to draw us closer to together. I believe the key is to begin repairing the relationship sooner rather than later.