Is there ever a time to give up on your marriage? If so, how do you know if it's time to give up on your marriage or if you should keep working to save your marriage? Are people giving up on marriage a little too soon these days?
Marriage used to be something that people had little choice but to work out. There were moral, societal, and financial repercussions to divorce that were too big for many people to even consider. Times have changed and in the modern world there isn't quite the premium placed on putting in the time to make marriages work that has been required in the past. It's become too easy to just throw up your hands and walk away for some people.
And yes, many people give up far too quickly on their marriages. That doesn't mean that there aren't times when giving up on your marriage might be the prudent course of action. There is one time when it may even be the best course of action.
When Should You Walk Away from Your Marriage?
There aren't many times when walking away without a second glance is advisable. Unfortunately, the one time it is also happens to be the one time that it is least often done. That would be when abuse is present in the relationship. Any kind of abuse should not be tolerated. It damages the person being abused as well as the one doing the abusing.
There is one other time when it may be a good idea to walk away from your marriage. You need to step away from the emotion of your situation though and really look to see if you are enjoying more good times than bad in your marriage. When the bad times outweigh the good it's time to do some serious reassessing. You need to have a long talk together and decide if there are changes that can be made to improve upon the good times or if you are both certain that the good times are over in your marriage and it's time to move on.
The institution of marriage was never meant to be disposable – something that could be thrown away without a second glance.