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Do you feel like it is impossible to communicate or talk to your spouse?  Do you feel like you have to bang some pan’s together or throw a pan at your spouse to be heard? Probably no matter how hard you bang or yell; your spouse never hears your cries for help to save the marriage.  Many of us feel ignored and are you trying to get heard.

We live in an amazing time in the world. With one click of a mouse, you can communicate with anyone in the world.  Email, instant message, text … it is quick, easy and free to communicate today.  Your ability to communicate with the outside world has become increasingly easy. But my guess is that your ability to communicate with your spouse has become increasingly difficult.

Information communication is NOT personal communication.  Advancements in Technological give us many many communication options but they aren’t personal and we have to have that personal touch with our spouse.

How do you communicate with your heart? You can’t email that. Our electronic world doesn’t give us that personal touch. PERSONAL communication is the game changer. Listen closely PERSONAL Communication can help to save your marriage.  It really will determine the success or failure a marriage.

Visualize this scene. A woman and man happen to meet on a bus and engage in quick discussion. They were both headed home to LA after a day in northern California.  After more discussion, they learned that they were both headed to the same subdivision. In fact, they realized that they had the same son and lived in the same house. They finally discovered that they were married.

Don’t quit the personal conversations.  If you are going to use email and text to your spouse, make this the secondary form of communication.  You must really hear each other from the heart.  You must feel the emotions and understand the context of where each other is coming from.  You’ve got to be able to hear the silence between the words, hear the little sounds and really understand the silent meaning of a tense lips or teary eyes. You’ve got to be able to hear what is radiating from each other’s heart. 
What can I do?  You must educate your self on communication and much more.

What you need to do is renew your relationship. If you want to help save your marriage you must really care about saving it.

So … how do you get back to a place where you and your spouse care about each other again?

This is one of the things that’s unique about the Save Marriage Course approach to repairing a relationship instead of traditional counseling.  The first priority must be the DECISION and then getting back to mode of love and care.

Do you remember when you fell in love?  I bet your communication was good. In fact, when you’re connecting and caring, you communicate with a subtle touch, the wink of an eye and you can finish each other’s sentences.

It isn’t about traditional communication but has everything to do with the in-depth connection between those who care about each other. 

If you want to learn how to re-connect with your partner again, try the Marriage Fitness system on my website or at-least signup for my free mini-course.

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Greg Alan was trained in Psychology from Cornell and has some great knowledge regarding successful relationships.  Get more helpful tips at Save My Marriage Course. Visit my website for my free mini-course.

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This article was published on 2011/02/09
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