Marriages usually start out on cloud nine, but sooner or later reality and life set in causing conflict and there were no books on marriage given you on your wedding day to refer to. The most important aspects of your life, marriage and children, are not taught in school and few of us get good advice from our parents.
There is no shame in needing marriage help, and you are to be commended for seeking books on marriage to help get through those rough spots and maybe even saving your marriage by stopping a divorce; if things have gone that far wrong.
The worst thing a married couple can do is pretend everything is alright when it really is not. Ignoring the problems merely compounds the damage the longer it goes untreated.
You may not want to be seen shopping at the local bookstore under the marriage help section, the privacy of seeking help online is quite convenient. Frankly, much of what you might see at the mall with a glossy cover and photo of the "learned author" with that knowing look, spectacles in hand and titles behind their name is really just drivel.
Books that sell at a retail outlet rely on an attractive cover and the name of the author. Notice I did not say reputation of the author.
Just because someone with a talk show or someone who has been on a talk show and sold a lot of books does not mean that anyone was helped!
I could write a marriage book that would resonate well with men, sell a lot of copies and make me popular among men. Unfortunately the same words that would make me a popular author among men would likely alienate women from the marriage to those men.
Saving a marriage is not about saying things people want to hear, it is about finding ways that two people are not connecting on the level they need to. Most times that includes telling those individuals things that hurt a little bit to hear.
Not the way to get popular as an author, is it? When the results bring those two people closer together, stop the divorce, and return love to the marriage, though, was it worth it?
Author reputation is very important, but not as purveyor of fancy words that are sweat to the ear of the book buyer. Reputation needs to be based on couples success at reconciliation, restoring love in the marriage and thus saving the marriage from divorce or life long unhappiness.
That is one thing that is pretty cool about the internet. People selling a product like a marriage book will not last long if their advice does not result in positive results. These authors are not relying in fancy covers, getting on Oprah or bribing a book chain to put them on the aisle rack.
Instead these people look for feedback and referrals of couples who have used their material to put their marriage back together, rebuild trust and reignite love.
My advice is to stay away from some lettered author with a nice profile photo on the jacket of a book stuffed full of platitudes, feel good lines and self edification.
Look instead for someone selling a book on marriage with positive feedback from real people who were helped by the content they not only read but actually applied to their marriage.
I know of one of these books on marriage that is filled with advice that works with people from around the world who will testify to the benefits they received from it.
Do not worry about someone seeing this book on your table, download it right away and read it in private. The address to go to is http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com. Turning your marriage around can begin today.