A famous artist Sacha Guitry has wrote, "After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together." It was may based on his own marriage, which did not last but taught him, he said, that ''love is not as important as empathy."
It was simply unheard of-once you're married, you stay married no matter what. You made the promise "till death do us part" and that's when you will part: in death. Another reason is because they stayed together not only through the good times, but especially through the hard times.
Marriage is not a dime a dozens; there will always be hard times, and when a couple is able to stick through it together, they come out stronger than ever.
8 Tips to save a marriage. The following principles can be used by a couple whose marriages are already in trouble or by a couple who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.
Empathy is the key - Empathy is your ability to see things from your partner's perspective. When you start to get it, you are ready for the next step.
Communication is critical - A relationship will never become a one-way thing, it always have to give, it always need not just one person to function but two persons need to work on this to be successful. An important factor for this to work is "communication" without this not within a day you will not achieve anything.
Give your spouse time alone - If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax.
Admit your mistakes - Do not pretend all is well and perfect when it is not. If there are problems in the marriage, admit them. Let your spouse know your concerns and that you have to remedy the problems now. When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to
sleep angry with each other.
Live simply - Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those couple who have less than you, not those who have more.
Forget past problems - Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved. More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse."
Never give up - If every couple would always give up every time the going gets tough, they will never achieve anything but divorce. So don't ever lose hope and give up, everything turns out okay and the good guy always wins."
Getting outside help - There are many online resources that will help you get past your marital problems and have a much happier, healthier marriage.
Keep in mind that there is no such thing as a marriage made in heaven.
Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success.